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nope that would be called successful female socialisation in a patriarchal society
Please do not use feminism to shame my interests.
I like pink and dresses and art and music and fashion. I also like blue and sports and comics and I choose not to wear makeup and have had short hair for the past five years. I am a person with feminine and masculine interests. I have not been socialized to be more feminine, I have adopted new interest, grown as a person and learned to embrace both my feminine and my masculine sides.
If you want to do a feminist reading on this silly ass comic about how I’ve changed over the past decade maybe you should look at why I actively avoided things typically viewed as “feminine”.
You’re not helping feminism by making me feel like I don’t have control over myself. You’re not helping feminism by shaming girls who consider themselves more feminine than masculine.
Thank you and goodbye.
ALSO I NEED TO ADD
I rejected femininity because of INTERNALIZED MISOGYNY. I thought girls were lesser and it was better to be a boy. I was one of those girls who said “I’M NOT LIKE OTHER GIRLS. I HATE GIRLIE THINGS. I LIKE VIDYA GAMES AND COMICS. GIRLS ARE CATTY I MAKE BETTER FRIENDS WITH BOYS”.I was less a feminist when I rejected femininity. Now that I’ve actually LEARNED about feminism and social constructs and stuff I’ve come to realize that I love girlie things and I love boyish things. Saying that a femme girl is automatically socializing to patriarchal society is ignorant as all get out.
You’re not a feminist if you tell women how they can and can’t express themselves.*
* obvs if they’re doing something racist or bigoted that’s different.
