how to have soft hair: so you know the part of the shower you spend staring into the indeterminable void, so far gone into nothingness that you almost expect it to reply, fully aware of the improbability of our continued existence, dazzled and terrified by the otherworldly creatures moving in a plane beyond ours, wondering if you’re imagining the black claws closing in around you? you put the conditioner in your hair before that
Month: October 2017
Melissa Etheridge – “Only The Good Die Young” – 4/27/14
Melissa Etheridge – “Only The Good Die Young” – 4/27/14
I said to my friend Amy, I said
“Only The Good Die Young” would be 200% better with a female vocalist.
(Come out, Virginia, don’t let me wait….)
And Melissa Etheridge proved me right.
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Always reblog when I see this video
and people say the baroque times weren’t fun. it was lit af back then. bach was turnt
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“Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them…or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers.”
Holy SHIT
WELL THEN
Yep.
They actually tested me for a learning disability in high school because I was consistently failing math.
They discovered that I actually scored in the 80th percentile in that sort of learning.
Problem was, in every other subject, I was in the 99.8th percentile.
I had never learned how to study because I never needed to—and then, when something proved to be even the slightest bit challenging, my brain went
“LOL nope this is impossible abort”
Meanwhile, this entire time I’m scraping by in subjects like English. The assignments I did turn in, I’d score top marks—but I’d avoid turning in projects I didn’t think were “good” enough.
Essentially, my brain had two settings: “100%” or “0%”.
This sort of Baby Genius shit makes kids and adolescents neurotic and self-destructive.
We learned about this in Child Development. And we learned to reward hard work and not good job. Like don’t say to a child, “oh you are so smart.” Say “Oh did worked so hard.”
Be proud of the child, not the achievement.
Be proud of the child, not the achievement.
Decades of research have been done on this by Dr. Carol Dweck. When the emphasis is placed on effort (a factor people can control) rather than talent (an innate skill), it’s a lot easier to see mistakes as a learning opportunity rather than something you just won’t ever be good at. And kids who were encouraged by effort were also more willing to take on more challenging work and considered it a lot more fun, while the kids who were praised for their intelligence were reluctant to put themselves in a situation where they might lose that identifier as a “smart kid” by making mistakes, so they preferred to do work they were confident they could master. Also, the kids praised for effort wanted to compare their results to kids who got higher scores, to see where they made their mistakes, while those praised for intelligence wanted to compare their results to kids who scored lower, to reassure themselves.
Not only does this set up “smart” students for a lot of trouble when they enter college and start being regularly challenged, the effects last long beyond that. It can be very hard for the “you’re so smart!” kids to unlearn as they become adults and struggle with even common adult things, and are afraid to ask for help because of that lesson they learned from misguided praise that they are supposed to be smart and supposed to know the answers.Â
…Honestly +1 here.  It’s very well researched and documented and yeah.  Making the emphasis on “You succeed and we are proud of you b/c you are SMART as an intrinsic quality!” makes failure/setbacks/difficulty -TERRIFYING- b/c if you’re “smart” it doesn’t happen and if you fail that means you’re not smart and that’s what everyone’s drilled into you as your main point of worth.
And the rates of anxiety disorders among “gifted student” kids are kinda horrifying.  Â
This is why “you’re so smart” means absolutely nothing to me any more. It’s used as punishment as often as it’s used as praise.Â
#i hate how real this post is
fucking same
yeah add this to the list of “shit I’m struggling with”
Well goddammit, this sure explains a ton of my neuroses.
“Has potential but doesn’t apply herself.” – every midterm evaluation I got from first grade on
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Dear Women,
This halloween please say no to these costumes please just say no they are fucking insulting and Dia de los Muertos is NOT HALLOWEEN I REPEAT NOT HALLOWEEN THIS IS NOT A COSTUME PLEASE STOP TREATING IT LIKE ONE
Thank youTO ALL THE PEOPLE GETTING FUCKED OFF AT MY POST. THIS IS EXACTLY WHY I MADE IT. FOR YOUR PINCHE GUERO PENDEJX ASSES. “WE DO IT OUT OF RESPECT,” MY ASS.
You’re a fucking loser with indy books barely making money. Who gives a shit what you think about making comics.
I received a bunch of messages in this vein, but yours didn’t have any political screeds or racial epithets so you get a response. Congrats.
When it comes to writing blog posts about making comics, I’ve always tried to make it clear that I am not a guru and don’t have anything close to all the answers.
Maybe that’s okay.
Survival bias is a state where people concentrate on only the most exemplary subjects and try to emulate them, not realizing that they’re the exception, not something typical.Â
If you try to figure out how to be a “huge successful writer” by only looking at superstars and big moneymakers, you’re almost certainly going to fail. Don’t get me wrong, every creative person has tremendous hardships and rejections in their careers at different points, but the level of success a J.K. Rowling, Stephen King or Robert Kirkman now have is highly unusual and not something you can reproduce.
Maybe it’s a good idea to get a bit of advice from someone currently in the trenches, someone slowly building their name bit by bit who’s honest about what worked and what didn’t as they go along.
I’ll admit, there’s still survival bias involved in my career (many people pitch their ideas to Image, many more want to work at Marvel), but I try to temper my optimistic advice with reality wherever I can. It may not be as impressive, but it’s certainly more realistic.
I’ve known friends and colleagues who wanted their creative careers to appear like Athena,
a perfect armored warrior-goddess instantly striking awe and fear into all around her, who sprung fully formed from the forehead of Zeus. (Seriously, that’s the legend. Mythology is fucking weird and awesome).
It doesn’t happen that way. It never will. The people I’ve known who acted that way about creativity quickly burned out on top of a pile of half-baked concepts and unfinished work. They wanted blinding inspiration and success or nothing and nothing was what they got.
If you make things you will struggle, screw up, and hate the choices you’ve made at times, but if you stick with it you will also learn and grow. Sometimes it won’t be about money. Other times that, and keeping a roof over your head, might be your only concern. Everyone’s journey is different. You can learn a bit from other people but in the end you have to go out there and do it yourself.
If you’re spending your time staring at my little bar charts shaking your fist about my success or lack thereof, you’re using way too much energy in an unproductive way. Go make stuff or go looking for Athena and see where it gets you.
Let’s talk about losers.
I know a loser who couldn’t get a book picked up by Image Comics to save his life, so he self-published a bunch of comics until he finally had a series approved. Then his first five or six launches there all failed. He threw a hail mary, but then the book barely cracked 7k on its first issue – a total dog. He’s open about once laying on the floor, face down, and thinking his career was over (not to mention being tens of thousands of dollars in debt). His name is Robert Kirkman. That “total dog”? Walking Dead.
There’s this other loser who had actually had a hit early on in his career. He had some decent runs since then, but eventually, he was scraping by doing anthology stories for a sub-genre which was rapidly dying. Dude was given the opportunity to do a book any way he wanted when he was in his mid-40s, and things finally started kicking off for him. Jack Kirby. Fantastic Four.
Outside of comics, there’s this one loser who never ever had a hit in his lifetime. In fact, every single book of his flopped sales wise while barely maintaining any praise outside of a couple of peers. He poured all of himself into one book in particular, but it was yet another flop. He died never seeing a modicum of success. His name was F. Scott Fitzgerald and the “yet another flop” was The Great Gatsby.
There’s this loser who received some decent attention in his late 20s. However, beyond an award for debut author (which is nice, but doesn’t pay bills) every one of his books received tepid, “loser”-level sales until he similarly threw a “hail mary” debuting a new character of his when he was in his mid-40s. His name is James Patterson, the character is Alex Cross, and Patterson’s the number one selling author in America, possibly the world.
Don’t get me started about yet another loser whose first book sold so poorly his publisher immediately handed back his rights, so dude struggled to find another publisher who would even look at his work. Paulo Coelho, author of the Alchemist, one of the best-selling books of all time.
The world’s built by losers who didn’t stop when they lost and kept on losing. There’s certainly no point in any creative pursuit without failing, learning, and improving. To go one further, “losing’s” not just inherent to the process, it’s the fuel. It’s how you grow, it shows you’re taking risks and trying new things. You need to lose to develop your voice beyond what you already know.
So, take it from Zub, Kirkman, and Kirby, or Fitzgerald, Patterson, and Coelho. If writing, painting, race car driving, or whatever-gets-you-going is something you desire pursuing, you better hope you’ll lose. Otherwise, you’ll never learn to win.
Vincent Price’s Daughter Confirms Father’s Bisexuality
Vincent Price’s Daughter Confirms Father’s Bisexuality
this Halloween take a moment to remember that the King of Horror was not only fine as fuck, he was bi!
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Here’s a “life-hack” for you.
Apparently concentrated Kool-Aid can be used as a pretty effective leather dye.
I was making a drink while cutting the snaps off some new straps for my pauldrons and I got curious, so I tried it, thinking, “ok even if this works, it will just wash out.”
Nope.
It took the “dye” (undiluted) in about 3 seconds. After drying for about an hour and a half, it would not wash off in the hottest tap-water. It would not wash out after soaking for 30 minutes.
It did not wash out until I BOILED it, and even then, only by a tiny bit and it gave it a weathered look that was kind of cool.
Add some waterproofing and I’d wager it would survive even that.That rich red is only one application too.
Plus it smells great, lol.So there you go, cheap, fruity smelling leather dye in all the colors Kool-Aid has to offer.
WELL THEN!
this may be important to some of my followers *and certainly not just getting reblogged because of my costuming and my boyfriends desire for leather armor*
When I was in middle school we used to use it to dye our hair. Potent stuff.
If you’re dying anything with kool-aid it’s best to use SUGAR-FREE ones otherwise the thing you’re dying might get all sticky
the flavor only packets where you are supposed add sugar are the best.Â
they will dye any natural fiber: leather, wool, cotton, hair, flax, jute, silk and so forth.Â
heat the dye water so it is more potent.Â
let dry then rinse excess out in cold water.Â
there’s a whole system to this.ÂOh my god
This will prove very useful for any future cosplays I wanna do.
why waste money on henna or box dyes, just buy koolaid :0